How to enjoy Valentine’s Day without a date

Ooh I love any celebration day! Tick-tock, few hours until date night times for couples.

How long has it been? 6 consecutive years without a date on Valentine’s Day. That’s a quarter of my life, mind you.

How would I feel getting through them all as a romantic? I used to feel pretty miserable but not now. Let me share some ways to fully enjoy this day without straying away from its meaning.

1.Expressing love to family and friends

I once gave them all chocolates and wish a happy Valentine’s Day, just so they won’t feel left out during this festive day. Or bring them all to eat out together, spending some quality time.



or just have casual night out with the girls



2. Pamper yourself = Love yourself

If you have a period when you’re away from all family and old friends like me, it’s time to invest this day for yourself. Have a nice long bath and soak up the warmth.



Add a bath bomb to make it fun!



Pour yourself some wine for Valentine’s day treat.



3. Submerge in your hobby

For me, it means cooking fancy stuff. I did love to cook for every celebration, I think good food is the key to enjoy everything. What’s yours?



4. Stay away from social media

Social media are tools to show people’s highlight reel and Valentine’s Day celebration is usually one of them. Thus if you can’t stand watching them without being jealous, just shut all media down and save yourself unnecessary negative emotion. Focus on what you can do by yourself on this beautiful day.



There you go.

What would I choose to do this year? *mind wandering off 7,600 miles away*



So what would YOU do on this Valentine’s Day without a date?
Wish you a happy Valentine’s Day anyway!

P.S. Please like, comment, or share if you enjoy reading this post. Love, Ayu 😉


What stopped me writing

I love writing, it’s out of question.

I think writing is therapeutical indeed, it’s the best channel for all of my ideas.

But… I cannot get myself write everything I wanted to write because of these three concerns :

1.My lack of confidence

My anxiety always reminds me of all my insecurities. She always ask “Do you think someone wants to read your post? Do you think the public can receive your topic? Do you think you use good English for your writing? Do you think you can use Bahasa Indonesia properly? Isn’t it written weird?

2. The pressure of being a Journalism graduates

I studied Journalism at a top university along with other experienced journalists, ranging from casual experience to decades of working in the media. I feel like nothing among them. Can my writing represent the quality of my education properly? Have I learnt enough? Have I learnt and abled to practice them properly? What can my writing contribute to the world among the better projects that my peers made?

3. The readers

Been living both in the opposite ‘western’ and ‘eastern’ countries made me socially confused. All of these experiences have folded me into someone with hybrid values by adopting both worlds’ values. Things I wanted to write are not very common here in Indonesia such as body positivity, freedom of self, etc. I am not even sure myself if I can write good enough about these topics. I used to think long and hard even before deciding on a topic to write. I asked myself these questions : Can the readers receive it well? Will it be useful for them? Will it bring negative effect socially to me and my loved ones?

Too many questions, it’s overwhelming even before I begin writing my first word. Need to strike some healthy balance to start writing again 🙂